There is this man that I got involved with who said things were over with him and his partner, that he really wanted me, that there was no choice to be made,
that he was leaving with or without me in his life. He eventually chose to work things out with her after a year of our spending time together. Where they live
together, they are considered common-law husband and wife; and as he words it: "His Bank Account Does The Talking." He will never
say to me that he really loves her, that he wants to work things out with her and that "LOVE" does the talking, only that the bank
account does.
He has no problem, though, telling me that he still thinks about me, and misses me. When I run into him in the building that we both work in, he is very pleasant and polite, wants to know how I am doing and compliments me on how I look and on what I am wearing. At the start of some conversations, he will say, "Hello Georgeous or Hello Beautiful, or Hello Cutie."
It has been well over a year since we have stopped seeing each other romantically, and even though I know that I am better off without him; there is this part of me that still misses him.
We have always been able to talk to each other so easily and still can. He even remarked over a month ago about all of the conversations that we had. He also told me that he still thinks about me....that there is no harm in that, and that he still misses me. We both know that we can't be together again, but it is still hard sometimes. For the most part, I am really strong and don't mind it somedays when I don't see him; but when I do and we start talking; it brings everything back. I remember how good it felt knowing how much he wanted me in his life, and how he would light up when he saw me, him telling me that he loves me; and having to realize now how much everything has changed; although talking to each other comes very easily still.
I did something really stupid, though. A couple of days ago I called his office, after not calling him for over a year. He answered the phone in a very strange way by saying, "Are you calling me to tell me it was good for you too?" After that I couldn't even say anything. I don't know why he would answer the phone that way, as he never did before. His phone doesn't have call display, that could have been anybody on the other end. I guess he was curious as to who was on the other end, but he eventually hung up. I was just going to say, "Hi, how are you?", but after that opening; I didn't know what to say.
Why would he answer the phone that way when he was still on the job?
I guess I am looking for advice on how to totally get him out of my head and forget him completely; and not even want to talk to him no matter how nice he is.
Where he isn't mean or insensitive when he sees me, he doesn't make it easy for me to hate him, or not want to talk to him.
What would you do if you were me?
Also, I still have letters and poetry that he gave me when we were spending time together; and I was just wondering whether I should keep them or get rid of them. I am having a hard time making up my mind on that one.
Thanks, and I am looking forward to hearing from you very soon with your opinions and advice on what I just wrote.
KellyAnn
He has no problem, though, telling me that he still thinks about me, and misses me. When I run into him in the building that we both work in, he is very pleasant and polite, wants to know how I am doing and compliments me on how I look and on what I am wearing. At the start of some conversations, he will say, "Hello Georgeous or Hello Beautiful, or Hello Cutie."
It has been well over a year since we have stopped seeing each other romantically, and even though I know that I am better off without him; there is this part of me that still misses him.
We have always been able to talk to each other so easily and still can. He even remarked over a month ago about all of the conversations that we had. He also told me that he still thinks about me....that there is no harm in that, and that he still misses me. We both know that we can't be together again, but it is still hard sometimes. For the most part, I am really strong and don't mind it somedays when I don't see him; but when I do and we start talking; it brings everything back. I remember how good it felt knowing how much he wanted me in his life, and how he would light up when he saw me, him telling me that he loves me; and having to realize now how much everything has changed; although talking to each other comes very easily still.
I did something really stupid, though. A couple of days ago I called his office, after not calling him for over a year. He answered the phone in a very strange way by saying, "Are you calling me to tell me it was good for you too?" After that I couldn't even say anything. I don't know why he would answer the phone that way, as he never did before. His phone doesn't have call display, that could have been anybody on the other end. I guess he was curious as to who was on the other end, but he eventually hung up. I was just going to say, "Hi, how are you?", but after that opening; I didn't know what to say.
Why would he answer the phone that way when he was still on the job?
I guess I am looking for advice on how to totally get him out of my head and forget him completely; and not even want to talk to him no matter how nice he is.
Where he isn't mean or insensitive when he sees me, he doesn't make it easy for me to hate him, or not want to talk to him.
What would you do if you were me?
Also, I still have letters and poetry that he gave me when we were spending time together; and I was just wondering whether I should keep them or get rid of them. I am having a hard time making up my mind on that one.
Thanks, and I am looking forward to hearing from you very soon with your opinions and advice on what I just wrote.
KellyAnn
