Yesterday I had two conversations about money and character. Both left me scratching my head.
The first is just an account and the second I need some advice on.
This friend of mine went to get a haircut, It cost $9, he left a $1 tip.
He asked for 3/4 inch left on top and 1/2 inch on the sides. It turned out much shorter and his sideburns were left uneven.
A day passed and he went back to tell the barber what a lousy job he did.
The barber offered him his money back.
My freind said no, just give me the tip back, "You don't deserve it".
When I laughed at this guy, he was clueless as to why I thought he was a power seeking cheapo.
The barber fixed his sideburns.
I told him I thought it was pathetic to have asked for the dollar back, especially since the barber offered him a full refund as well as fixing the haircut. Further, there was no reason for him to tell the barber he didn't deserve the stinking dollar tip.
It just so happens this friends life would make Jerry Springers rating sore.
I suggested that maybe he should consider that he is misdirecting his big mouth toward the wrong people in his life.
He stood firm that he did nothing wrong and he never tips anyone who doesn't deserve it.
Bottom line is I told him if I was ever standing there when he asked for a dollar tip back, I'd have either laughed assuming it was a joke, or I'd have crawled out on my stomach. He keeps reinforcing his behavior by saying he was proving a point. ( I thought yeah, and you sure did).
For the past 14 years we have had the same tenant upstairs, I went to school with him and he has never married or had kids.
For the past 14 years he has paid $225/mo for a very nice one bedroom apt. He is a contractor.
His rent is usually late, he's a bit of a drinker.
He got engaged and has barely been staying in the apt for the past two months.
On the 8th of last month my husband called to see when he was going to pay his rent and if he planned on staying at the apt at all.
My husband said he is just using it to keep his stuff as it is cheaper than storage but we need someone in the apt. In the two months he had not been staying there, there was a roof leak that went undetected.
He came on the 8th of December to tell me he was going to the bank and would be right back to pay me. I waited about 5 hours for him.
Finally I needed to get some errands done. I came home to a note on my kitchen table saying here's the rent and this will be my last month here/
OK! Why didn't you just tell me that when you were just here?
So 8 days into the month now leaves me three weeks to prepare for his leaving and to plan on getting the apt ready to rent again.
Yesterday afternoon he came and said he was done. I said OK, thanks, good luck.
He said, "oh yeah, you owe me $500.
About two years ago he installed a propane heater which included a gas line running up the side of the house and a huge gas tank in my yard.
I wasn't happy but it was done. Over the years, he started putting things in the garage. Little annoyances. He took out picnic table and moved it to his side of the house. Just little things. so for 14 years he has had a very nice apt at a ridiculously low rent.
For 14 years he has always given us a stack of receipts for supposed repairs, improvements he had made over the year instead of his rent.
every Jan and Feb.
He wants $500 to leave the propane heater and the gas in the tanks.
I told him I'd talk to my husband about it. The thing is when he installed the gas heater he removed the electric heat.
My resolution is to have his gas account put in my name and pay any balance because if it isnt paid, they will take the tanks.
He was told by my husband that the apt was rented as of the 1rst of Feb so he needed to be moved out, he could leave what he wanted, but we could not extend his time to get his stuff out. His rent was paid late and he was paid to the 1rst, That's it.
He made this move regarding the proane heater without permission and removed the only other source of heat, My feeling is that was his choice.
How would you handle this? I don't think I really owe him anything.
The first is just an account and the second I need some advice on.
This friend of mine went to get a haircut, It cost $9, he left a $1 tip.
He asked for 3/4 inch left on top and 1/2 inch on the sides. It turned out much shorter and his sideburns were left uneven.
A day passed and he went back to tell the barber what a lousy job he did.
The barber offered him his money back.
My freind said no, just give me the tip back, "You don't deserve it".
When I laughed at this guy, he was clueless as to why I thought he was a power seeking cheapo.
The barber fixed his sideburns.
I told him I thought it was pathetic to have asked for the dollar back, especially since the barber offered him a full refund as well as fixing the haircut. Further, there was no reason for him to tell the barber he didn't deserve the stinking dollar tip.
It just so happens this friends life would make Jerry Springers rating sore.
I suggested that maybe he should consider that he is misdirecting his big mouth toward the wrong people in his life.
He stood firm that he did nothing wrong and he never tips anyone who doesn't deserve it.
Bottom line is I told him if I was ever standing there when he asked for a dollar tip back, I'd have either laughed assuming it was a joke, or I'd have crawled out on my stomach. He keeps reinforcing his behavior by saying he was proving a point. ( I thought yeah, and you sure did).
For the past 14 years we have had the same tenant upstairs, I went to school with him and he has never married or had kids.
For the past 14 years he has paid $225/mo for a very nice one bedroom apt. He is a contractor.
His rent is usually late, he's a bit of a drinker.
He got engaged and has barely been staying in the apt for the past two months.
On the 8th of last month my husband called to see when he was going to pay his rent and if he planned on staying at the apt at all.
My husband said he is just using it to keep his stuff as it is cheaper than storage but we need someone in the apt. In the two months he had not been staying there, there was a roof leak that went undetected.
He came on the 8th of December to tell me he was going to the bank and would be right back to pay me. I waited about 5 hours for him.
Finally I needed to get some errands done. I came home to a note on my kitchen table saying here's the rent and this will be my last month here/
OK! Why didn't you just tell me that when you were just here?
So 8 days into the month now leaves me three weeks to prepare for his leaving and to plan on getting the apt ready to rent again.
Yesterday afternoon he came and said he was done. I said OK, thanks, good luck.
He said, "oh yeah, you owe me $500.
About two years ago he installed a propane heater which included a gas line running up the side of the house and a huge gas tank in my yard.
I wasn't happy but it was done. Over the years, he started putting things in the garage. Little annoyances. He took out picnic table and moved it to his side of the house. Just little things. so for 14 years he has had a very nice apt at a ridiculously low rent.
For 14 years he has always given us a stack of receipts for supposed repairs, improvements he had made over the year instead of his rent.
every Jan and Feb.
He wants $500 to leave the propane heater and the gas in the tanks.
I told him I'd talk to my husband about it. The thing is when he installed the gas heater he removed the electric heat.
My resolution is to have his gas account put in my name and pay any balance because if it isnt paid, they will take the tanks.
He was told by my husband that the apt was rented as of the 1rst of Feb so he needed to be moved out, he could leave what he wanted, but we could not extend his time to get his stuff out. His rent was paid late and he was paid to the 1rst, That's it.
He made this move regarding the proane heater without permission and removed the only other source of heat, My feeling is that was his choice.
How would you handle this? I don't think I really owe him anything.
